If we and our intimate loved ones are in basic good health, have financial security, and nobody is threatening our lives, or breaking down the doors, we should, by nature, feel happy, but we are not.
The approach of my work integrated into the PAIRS curriculum is not meant to provide an escape from human struggle, instant cure, or a quick fix. My contributions are aimed at contributing to a comprehensive educational program that helps people become more human.
Our founding fathers fought for what they believed in. And they wrote it very succinctly in the Declaration of Independence. “We are endowed by our Creator to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.” Although we are entitled to it, many of us still do not know what it really is we are entitled to. Nor would we know how to get it even if we understood what we were looking for.
Physical illness may take away our happiness, but physical well-being does not automatically give it to us. Doctors go to school to learn about diseases not “dis-eases.” They learned how to change sick into well. They took no courses on how you change well into happy.
Don’t waste your time, effort, or money trying to fulfill a biological need by substituting culturally valued objects. All the gold in Fort Knox will not be a substitute for the lack of oxygen. Nor will all the alcohol, drugs, pills, or material objects. No one can buy their way out of their need for oxygen. They may buy oxygen but they cannot buy their way out of their need for oxygen. The only thing that will take away the pain due to the deprivation of oxygen is oxygen. There is one biologic need that one cannot buy, and that is the need for bonding.