Many people are phobic, paranoid, and inhibited about the one need for happy survival that requires trusting another person.
Tag: bonding
The root cause of addiction and a path forward
If you’ve ever wondered why we have such a problem with addiction, crime and delinquency, here is where Daniel Casriel believes it begins.
Why many people feel empty after sex
Emotionally turned off people, like dead people, cannot sustain an emotionally pleasurable relationship. All things considered, like dead people, they do not hurt too much; emotionally, that is. They usually end up getting high blood pressure and coronaries. You can fool your mate. You can fool yourself. But you cannot fool mother nature.
The origin of nature’s roadmap
A starving person is not hungry, even though he is starving. If one has not eaten in four or five days one feels very hungry. After four or five days of starvation, the pangs of hunger cease. The person continues to starve without hunger. Many people are starving for bonding, but have no symptoms. They do not understand why their intimate human relationships have so little pleasure. Many do not understand why they are so bored with their marriage. Many do not understand what their mates are complaining about.
The unhappiest culture ever to survive
If we and our intimate loved ones are in basic good health, have financial security, and nobody is threatening our lives, or breaking down the doors, we should, by nature, feel happy, but we are not.
What is happiness?
Don’t waste your time, effort, or money trying to fulfill a biological need by substituting culturally valued objects. All the gold in Fort Knox will not be a substitute for the lack of oxygen. Nor will all the alcohol, drugs, pills, or material objects. No one can buy their way out of their need for oxygen. They may buy oxygen but they cannot buy their way out of their need for oxygen. The only thing that will take away the pain due to the deprivation of oxygen is oxygen. There is one biologic need that one cannot buy, and that is the need for bonding.
