with gratitude to Psychiatrist Daniel Casriel
You might be carrying around with you two big secrets, either “I am not loveable and/or I am not good enough.” They were my secrets and, by the way, the secret thoughts and feelings of most people that enter my process.
Don’t waste your time, effort, or money trying to fulfill a biological need by substituting culturally valued objects. All the gold in Fort Knox will not be a substitute for the lack of oxygen. Nor will all the alcohol, drugs, pills, or material objects. No one can buy their way out of their need for oxygen. They may buy oxygen but they cannot buy their way out of their need for oxygen. The only thing that will take away the pain due to the deprivation of oxygen is oxygen. There is one biologic need that one cannot buy, and that is the need for bonding.
Since childhood we have been forced by conditioning to put people above us … We end up trying to balance the scale by putting others below us. Many of us continue to maintain this unfair, invalid, wasteful time and energy consuming, castrating system all our lives.
Nature spent millions of years making human beings loveable to each other, and you are a human being. One of the main functions of my processes is to help you see yourself as you really are, loveable.
“Sickness” is the symptom of this malprogramming. Many approaches waste enormous time and money “treating” the symptom. I focus on reprograming the A.B.C.’s of personality. When you do, the symptoms will disappear.
“As you wander on through life brother, Whatever be your goal, Keep your eye upon the donut, And not upon the hole.” How many times
