Pain and pleasure in association to our biological needs are not only based on the quality of the need, but also on the quantity of those needs. Too much of the same thing or not enough can cause pain.
If we and our intimate loved ones are in basic good health, have financial security, and nobody is threatening our lives, or breaking down the doors, we should, by nature, feel happy, but we are not.
When human beings are born in hell, because of their great adaptational ability they survive, even though they are miserable and yell and complain that they want to leave, when they are placed in heaven, they will feel so uncomfortable and lost, they would try to go back to hell where they feel they belong and have learned to survive.
The approach of my work integrated into the PAIRS curriculum is not meant to provide an escape from human struggle, instant cure, or a quick fix. My contributions are aimed at contributing to a comprehensive educational program that helps people become more human.
Our founding fathers fought for what they believed in. And they wrote it very succinctly in the Declaration of Independence. “We are endowed by our Creator to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.” Although we are entitled to it, many of us still do not know what it really is we are entitled to. Nor would we know how to get it even if we understood what we were looking for.
Happiness is a positive input of pleasure, and not merely a reduction of pain. If one gives a beggar on the streets of Calcutta a half of loaf of stale bread, and it is more that he has ever had, and it is more than his beggar friends have, he will be happy. Happiness is relative to our experience.